I’ve heard plenty of people say that you never know what you’ll find when you stop looking. From my perspective, that’s definitely true.
In 2008, I’d been divorced for nearly a year and a half, and I’d been dating for most of that time. I wasn’t finding what I was looking for, mainly because I didn’t *know* what I was looking for. So I chose to stop dating, and sat down to define exactly what I sought in a relationship and in a partner.
A few days later, I met the man I refer to as my “real-life romance hero husband.” I wasn’t looking for someone to date. Neither was he. But when we met, it was obvious that we couldn’t just walk away from each other. We have been together literally since the moment we met; it’s now been nearly six and a half years.
Sometimes we try too hard to find what we think we want, and we end up closing ourselves to possibilities. Or we push to make someone the person we’re looking for when they really aren’t.
When you’re looking for someone to love, sometimes the best thing to do is be open and just trust that love will strike when it–and you–are ready.